1. Dismantle all concepts of how you THINK you should live.
2. Step into your true nature of Being and Shine!
SECRET: These two steps may be all you need!
If you want to DO more, here are
TEN LESSONS from the Dalai Lama-
Could these ten lessons really change your life? Try to apply them to your life and work. You will soon discover that truth, honesty, warm-heartedness and compassion will be the driving forces in your life and will help you to gain real happiness.
1. Be compassionate.
“The topic of compassion is not at all religious business; it is important to know it is human business, it is a question of human survival.” Dalai Lama
Research shows that compassionate feelings are similar to the feelings of pleasure as when you have sex, good food or a relaxing holiday. Basically, showing compassion improves your health. When we take compassionate action, we receive a sense of wellbeing. We benefit from reduced stress, more regular heartbeat and improved immune system.
You can show compassion by understanding the person’s feelings and emotions. That means talking with them and trying to share what they are going through. It is more demanding than a mere act of kindness. When you are compassionate, you are emotionally involved. Ask how you may help. Apply this to:
A friend who is ill;
Someone who has lost their job;
A grieving relative;
Someone suffering a separation;
A person who is homeless.
2. Be kind and help others.
“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is Kindness.” Dalai Lama
Being kind and generous costs little and the resultant happiness is considerable. Michael Norton and colleagues at the Harvard Business School reached that conclusion after their research– volunteers who gave away some money were happier than those who had spent it on themselves.
“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” Dalai Lama
3. Find happiness.
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” Dalai Lama
In the rat race, the one thing you really want at the end of the day is the capacity to find happiness.
In an interview, the Dalai Lama said we suffer daily bombartment of messages about material possessions compaired with few messages about forgiveness, compassion, patience, tolerance, and kindness. When those values are give top priority, we experience greater happiness.
“Happiness is not ready made—it comes from our own actions.” Dalai Lama
4. Discover inner peace.
The Dalai Lama advises everybody to spend a little time on their own each day. Alone-time to reflect and chase away the negative thoughts such as anger, resentment, jealousy, and tiredness. Try to replace those with positive emotions such as optimism, gratitude, love, and peace. He says,” the truly calm mind is the source of happiness and good health.”
5. Do not harm others.
“If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.” Dalai Lama
If you start telling lies, gossiping and spreading nasty rumors, bullying, and taking advantage of others, then the negative fallout from them will come back to haunt you. Of course these are just a few of the actions that can harm others.
6. Nurture your friendships.
Friendships should be tended and valued. Offer a friend tender loving care and you will generate trust and affection. Real friendships will never depend on money or political clout. Neglected or stillborn friendships lead to loneliness. This is one of the risk factors which contributes to depression in our society.
7. Don’t let technology rule your life.
The Dalai Lama has over 8 million followers on Twitter! He admires the advances in social media in helping us to communicate. He also warns against its overuse for the following reasons:
Social Media can start to control your life—look at people in restaurants texting and using their cell phones, even when other people are present at their table.
Who is in charge? You or the technology?
Technology is a poor substitute for real friendship.
It cannot help you to be compassionate.
Real human interaction is suffering as a result.
“We are the controller of the technology. If we become a slave of technology, then that’s not good.” Dalai Lama
8. Don’t argue or fight; just negotiate.
“Non-violence means dialog; using our language, the human language. Dialog means compromise; respecting each other’s rights; in the spirit of reconciliation there is a real solution to conflict and disagreement. There is no hundred percent winner, no hundred percent loser—not that way but half-and-half. That is the practical way, the only way.” Dalai Lama
Whether an international crisis or an argument with your partner or boss, the key to a peaceful, non-violent outcome is dialog. In this way, you learn the art of compromise and negotiation. His Holiness recommends that rather than bring up the past, concentrate on what is causing the present problem.
9. Be gentle with the earth.
In order to survive, we have a duty to preserve this planet as best we can. Learn how to recycle, look at ways to create alternative energy, and learn about the current issues. We can delay the tipping point!
10. Learn from your failures.
“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” Dalai Lama
When you screw up, it is important to examine what went wrong. Maybe you sad the wrong thing or maybe you haven’t thought the whole process through. Perhaps there was a problem in planning the project and maybe you did not think about worst-case scenarios. Reflection can help you learn every time you fail.
~I hope you found some ideas and inspiration toward a more compassionate, happy life. As always, though I just really want to encourage you to Shine in your True Nature and stretch beyond what you believe is possible.
If you are Tribe-Writing with us today here is the prompt-
“Transported across time, I received a second chance…”
Thank you! Dr. Judy